Friday, 11 September 2015

3 Things To Consider: To Cut It Off Or Not?

         Hi and assalamualaikum guys! So yeah, it's been a long time, without you my blog~ ~ ~

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          Anyways, as the title say, I'll talk about relationship for this new post actually. A relationship won't be happy all the time from the moment it happened until you don't know what's going on in it too. It takes all the elements to make it complete as a whole. You get through the dark alleys before you found the light in the end of the road guys. Well, here are 3 things you should at least consider before breaking up (mostly girls).

The Feeling

          Is it really the feeling that faded away or you're just merely mad at your partner? Just take a time to stand back, take a deep breath and think rationally. How will that affect you if you say it? And what is the outcome if its another way round? If the answer would later make you in grief and you can make it sustain longer if its another way round, then stay. You are not thinking rationally. Plus, if you've been together for quite some times. Why cut it off when the feeling is there? Do you really think someone else could handle your craziness as well as your partner did?

The Memories

          When you're alone at your own space and suddenly some memories about you and him/her come barging in, does it makes you smile or start to regret things? If it smiles, laughter, making you feel of missing him/her and want to be by his/her side at that time, then you don't really want to break-up. You just actually want the attention from your loved one. It just where the hormone play sensitive-loving feels game so strong. Instead, what you can do is to open up, put your ego aside and enough with a starter to just send him/her a text saying "I miss you." It will then definitely soften thing up a bit. :) Usually, its the unnecessary ego that tear the relationship apart. 

The Contrast

Now you're using the excuses of being too different personalities for a break-up. Is it really the excuse? Does the differences are the things that bother you the most in your relationship? Now think; is it the difference that you can't handle or the chemistry is not there? Let me tell you, these two are different things. There's differences that make you complete as a whole and there might be no chemistry even you are just so similar in any way. You need a friend that is similar with you, but a lover who are different to complete you. Will you be able to keep the relationship going if both of you just love the same things with no different preference for years? Can you keep up with another you? Or an opposite of you that complete you?

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          Don't jump to a conclusion too quick. if there's a PROBLEM, DISCUSS with each other to SORT THINGS OUT. Do not simply make a conclusion just from your side. Problem comes in relationship as a test; to see whether the love is strong enough. Don't give up easily as you should believe, there's always silver lining behind everything. Well as for, there's unicorn after the storm. (as rainbow is too mainstream and the happiness you get is slightly bigger after you go through shit). You don't actually need a lot of advices,just some times to think with a little guide. That's it from me. Till then, Farewell~

Tuesday, 13 January 2015


          Hi and Assalamualaikum. Hai guys. Don't even know if someone is reading this. Just posting out of boredom in the middle of the night. So yeah, we've entered 2015. *Yeaay* Increase in age numbers, getting older, shorter life and closer to death. Hmmmm. My resolution? Nothing in specific, but I'll just kept it alone. :)

         Love huh? Friends at my age are getting married, having cute babies and such. While me? I am still confused. If only heart was easier to handle, like having those switches, on and off. It could be simpler. But yeah, you wish, Ain. I just never have a really good love story that I can tell. I'm suck at being a lover. Or is it me that friendzone myself from everyone? I'm loving someone while liking the others. How can I control it? Loving someone whom I know have no possibility for us to end up together makes me gave a chance to someone I barely like. I am a traditional female dude. I still have fantasy on falling in love after getting married. While marriage is not a big deal for me, it somehow is to my Mom. "I'll just accept anyone who want to marry you if it'll be long" - Mom. Me? Confused.

          A lot that happened to me, I let go the good guy with having thinking they can't love me for real. I am no good with him. He's just too good for me. Am I making excuses to myself or I am just a fool in love thingy? Apart from that, I am just not ready to get married as I am afraid my children'll be like me. By having my bad attitude. I don't want that. I am still not ready to take care of another me. I am not strong enough. I've sinned a lot. I'm a sinner. I am just no good. Am I looking down too much on myself? Do I have no more trust in me? It always got me wonder. Do I deserve someone good or worse than me? How I wish to cut off these feelings. How I wish.....

          By writhing these, several name pop-up in my mind. Making me thinking, sinking into memories lane and getting hurt by myself. I should just stop. May this year teach me on how to be tougher. Hati Kering it is. Till then, farewell. Assalamualaikum. :)